Please Help

[betterman77]

Journaling:
You are right J3B when you said piecing isn't easy. One minute the WAS is there in the moment and the next they're cold and distant.

Started off the weekend with the kids Friday night (W works the middle shift as an RN) at karate then pizza. They're my pride and joy and every second I spend with them I cherish (even though they can be a handful at times).

Saturday took the kids to a birthday party while the W spent the day at the spa for her 40th birthday (a gift from the kids). Saturday night took W and another couple out to dinner at a nice Italian place.

Father's Day started off great. Got breakfast in bed then W and I spent the day working in the yard while the kids swam in the pool. Was scheduled to head over to SIL for cake so W went in to shower and from that point on she didn't really say much and she had this blank stare going on. Didn't press for a reason why just carried on in a happy way enjoying the kids on Father's Day.

This morning same behavior. Today is her actual bday so I had some nice flowers delivered for her. I get a simple text thanking me for them. She called me 5 times today about absolutely nothing and when I do something nice for her birthday I get a simple text. I know no expectations but c'mon.

Should I pull back a little and not be pursuing so much? This is a milestone birthday and I wanted it to be special for her.

Two things that I am having a problem with. She is addicted to her cell phone. She must have checked that thing 50 times while we were working in the yard, then all the way to her sisters and the rest of the night. I finished my workout this morning, come upstairs and guess what she was on that phone. It's really starting to aggrevate me. How do I bring it up without her seeing it as controlling?

The second thing is my family. In the beginning of this sitch they were always there for me and i've told them how much it has meant to me. I really couldn't get through the first couple of months without them being there. When W and I had decided to work on things they kept bashing her while keeping my best interest at heart. It's gotten to the point where I have had to cut off contact with them. I told them I need this time to try and repair what was done and to please respect my space while I do. But they keep badering me. Has anyone else experienced this with their family?