Sounds like you are a great guy--good H and father. She's lucky to have you.
Good for you on the C... if some stuff about your son's issues come up and you need some help navigating through that maze, come down to my thread in Piecing and ask away.
I have a lot of knowledge on that subject--both personal and what I've learned from other parents who share. My feet are firmly on the ground with my D6 and the special needs world, and I've worked very hard to allow my emotional self heal and catch up.
So it's really, really wonderful that you've come here for some help and answers and somehow I know you'll come out a better person. Have you read DB and DR as well? Lots to read until you guys make it into the MC.
Best wishes and big hugs.
Underdog
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
