This morning no one-liner email. My sister said - by acting this way...I am shutting chances of him thinking of staying in our marriage. He needs the support from me because he is in a bad place mentally and he is trying to pull himself out of his own pit by aggrandizing his contributions to the marriage and his "sacrifice" to try and make it work. She told me - I have to suck it up and still be very supportive.. that means.. loving emails/care package and all..
Did you tell your sister what you told us?
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I then received a one-liner email from him on Thursday and Friday. Basically he was asking me why we're not online... and for me to find time to skype with them FOR babies sake... so I don't think it's because he's thinking "OMG what is she upto, why is she not sitting and waiting like she used to do by her laptop"? Yep I was that pathetic since November Sandi - I had always worked our appts over his schedule (he works long hours there and sporadic times so can't really tell me when he will be online and also he's inconsiderate that sometimes he will be back in his room and just don't want to deal with anything and won't go online - meanwhile I am waiting online with the babies until 3pm so our day is over by then.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought you had already tried the sucking up plan and it didn't work very well.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
