But I do see a lot people in newcomers who would gladly trade situations.
They'd be fools.
You did the hard work to get here; and that perpares you for this. More people should tend their own yard than wish for their neighbors.
It IS hard to not focus on the negatives, even when there are alot of positives.
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She said that I want reassurance from her and she can't give me that right now.
Postive in there...right now. I know it sounds all negative, but you can train yourself to see the positive.
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She did say the last few weeks have been great and really helped her see me better. I think she appreciates me a lot more than a few months ago.
That whole time and conistency thing...after just a few weeks. Wonder what might change in just a few short months?
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She said she wanted to make sure we move at the right speed or slower and not try to hurry things along. I get that, but after I turned 40 I'm starting to see my own mortality.
Or...to sum it up.
You understand, but you want it now.
Harrier,
You are looking to rebuild a marriage,(and this is an analogy...so feel free to blow it apart) Do you want fast and shoddy work, or slow and well built? One of those templates will weather time better.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
