H's parents were D'd now for over 36 years and remarried to other people so H has two sets of parents really. And that side (FIL), doesn't bother with the kids or me either and we were very close.
Your H. has an example to follow. This in his eyes is the way it's done and is an appropriate way to handle the relationships with his own children. No doubt he wasn't treated well either during and after his biological parent's divorce.
Add to that confusion. I certainly don't know how to deal with my MIL. Far as I'm concerned her response to the knowledge her son left me told me that from that point on I was persona non grata. I've made no effort at contact since that time...what would it profit me?
Perhaps your H's family doesn't know what to do either. Family loyalty/roles are complex.
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