Preparing For Big D & STILL Here

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This whole experience is so much worse when all you ever wanted was a home life with your "core" family.

Absolutely agree with you. Oddly so many WAS don't seem to care that they are throwing away something that can be salvaged.

STBX is still very much against our kids having anything to do with my family. She still claims they were part of the reason our marriage failed

I can related to you here. My wife blames my parents a lot for our failed marriage. That is total BS. As in life and job, getting along with spouse's family is important. Yup, there are gonna be issues. But as long as they can be worked out, nothing harm done. But i believe that if your ego is so strong that you can never forgive, then you'll always find a reason, a scapegoat.