Really great advice. Some of this, I do. I used to be a "caregiver" but am more of a "caretaker" now. I've read a lot, including some of the books on co-D. And I've noticed, I tend to do more of this when things are chaotic. (Which is why I try, lately without much success, to keep things from getting too crazy and stressful. I like myself MUCH better when I'm relaxed and easy-going.)
In the past my IC said my life really is very chaotic and stressful and that I handle it very well. BUT that my only healthy response to Ws charging ahead is to detach and let her do her thing. To not try to keep up or take the slights personally.
The question really is how.
Going for IC was a big step. I'll need to think about what else I could do to do this.....
