Denver & DG - Every time I think I must be the only person in the world with certain things in my life, this forum shows me that I am not. It doesn't make things better, but at least I know there are others who have made the same choices/mistakes.
This whole experience is so much worse when all you ever wanted was a home life with your "core" family. When you have given up on so much else to try to save that family, and it still doesn't work, it's hard to not feel alone - especially when your kids are grown and will be leaving home soon.
I believe those relationships are repairable. I want my kids to have some kind of family. STBX is still very much against our kids having anything to do with my family. She still claims they were part of the reason our marriage failed. I think that is part of it, but she is also worried about my sisters talking about things they know (or think they know) about the relationship between STBX and her Boss years ago. My oldest sister worked for them at one point and years ago was VERY concerned by what she saw and heard. Another sister saw them at a restauarant/bar in the middle of the day years ago. They claimed it was a meeting. I can come up with so many example of their improper behavior going back about 8 years. I was always uncomfortable with their relationship, but never handled it properly. And now...she is with him and they are apparently very happy together. I can't help feeling that I lost my wife to a lesser man.
This is going to be a tough week for me. Thursday is STBX's 41st birthday and the 23rd anniversary of the say we met. Last year at this time, we were getting ready to go to Mexico together to celebrate her 40th. I keep thinking of how beautiful she looked the night of her birthday when we went out for dinner and how great it was to be together that night - especially being "together". The trip to Mexico that began a few days later, didn't go well and it was that trip that I believe, made STBX decide she was never coming home.
