I can see how much you want this to work out and how hard you're trying to walk a very fine line with your wife,, staying connected while giving her space. I have some idea how hard this can be.
When I say "Don't think of a stop sign." What do you think of? Almost everyone thinks of the sign. When you repeatedly tell your wife you don't want to pressure her, I don't imagine that's having the reassuring effect you think it is. Just food for thought.
