Ex has cycled back several times since he left but most recently when OW and he had a major blow up in August last summer. She distanced from him and then he started cycling toward me and the kids. We were all like WTH? It lasted for approximately three months, he was kind to us, came around frequently including for my bday, called often, took me out to lunch a few times and became more active in the kids lives. He was pulled back in by Thanksgiving with the deal between them sealed again by Christmas. He had even agreed to go to counseling but as the date approached he became skittish.
What I am trying to tell you is that as long as they have contact with each other , you are on a slippery slope. It is a long journey and the second that something goes wrong in what they think is the best thing since sliced bread ... they will cycle back to you and then her.
Keep your boundaries in place and keep doing your thing. Trust when I tell you OW keeps him on a short leash. My ex's is far more demanding and firm than I ever was.
We have no idea if they will ever come back to us. They are different people once they are gone for a while.
Take care of you, keep your boundaries in place , always look FABULOUS and happy when you see him and keep on keeping on.
