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RNP, You have to understand that early in his relationship, he will be very attracted to the OW. He will also drop little crumbs to kinda keep you in the picture and at the same time, he will do things, like having the OW's underwear laying around to kinda push you away. I know it sounds crazy, and it is. I would recommend that you not meet at his apartment, nor let him come to your house, but meet at a neutral place. Doing that will also get him wondering what you are doing and at the same time keep you shielded from some of that other stuff.

Thanks Braveheart for responding. I know you are right. Knowing about the A is one thing. Seeing and touching the evidence is another. I have never felt so sick in all my life. I was shaking, literally on the floor shaking. I had to hold it together for the sake of S3.

As I sat there on his floor I realised I was faced with two choices:
1. Get mad and confront him
2. Get up and act as if

I chose 2. I decided there and then that this was not going to stop me. I am stronger than this and I was determined to have a good time. So I looked for the positives of the night. Some positives were that H felt comfortable to have me in his apartment, he bought me a new team shirt to wear to the football, he saw that I was cold and got me some socks, just as I was getting ready to have a shower he put the heater in the bathroom so I wouldnt get cold and last night he sent me a text thanking me for coming.

I havent replied and Im not going to. He will be coming to see S3 on Wednesday and I believe that he might ask me to go to dinner. He will therefore be contacting me before then.

Im not sure what most of you will say about going to dinner and also going to the movies this weekend. I can assume that some of you will say that I shouldnt be going. Detach, detach, detach.

However, I have decided to go. I have seen some forward movement from H. I realise that he has not asked to come home or asked me to move in with him. However, I once received very good advice from someone very wise on this board - "You might want to reconsider the LRT only b/c "No family time" sounds punitive, AND couldn't you argue that time together as a family, if it were fun, warm, loving, kind and forgiving, would demonstrate to him that you CAN forgive and that the Road Home is Paved and Smooth...??".

I know some of you will dissagree. But I believe that DBing is about doing more of the things that are working and less of the things that are not. If I am wrong I am wrong. I might fall down and get hurt but I will pick myself up and dust myself off. Ill learn and grow from it.

I will not pursue, I will continue to GAL (infact about to head off to the gym right now), I will act as if, I will continue to do fun things with my son, family and friends. I will give H space and let him figure this out for himself.