Happy Father's Day, Johnnie. It's good to hear you in a more positive mood. It's difficult to determine we are going to be in a positive mood, isn't it? Sure helps to have those easier days and your children sound like such a blessing.
There is one thing that seems to be a very common thread weaved in the LBH's stories. Almost all of them are very impatient when they do not see a sign from the WAW that she's warming up to the new & improved H.
It takes a very long time for most WAW's to even consider....much less show that she's interested. I used to tell LBH's that I heard it from my H, too, about how he wanted me to be 100% willing to put my all into the M. But at first, all I could do was be willing "to be willing". Make sense? IOW, I had to think about being willing for a long time, and it took longer for me to actually be willing. Guess that's getting kind of murky.
What I'm trying to say is that you have a long road ahead. You have to decide to be in for the long haul, without your W showing any signs. Tough? Sure, just ask the other LBH's.
She will watch you closely, b/c you haven't begun to convince her you've made any changes. After she decides you have, then she'll watch to see if they stick.
So sorry about the job. Sure hope something open fast. Your M sure didn't need that added stress. Remember, your kids need to be assured by daddy that they will be okay.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
