74 Days - Who Knows?

[Denver_2010]

I was a little irritated at the very end of the night bc W had mentioned OM's name in passing about something. I can't even remember what it was that she said. This was right before I dropped her off at her place.

W must have sensed that I was irritated, bc when I got home, I received a text from her:

W: "I'm not sure why you are so p!ssed about a conversation about our friends other than you having had a few drinks... just so you know."

I responded: "I'm not p!ssed. Goodnight"

Why did you lie to your W? (and don't play semantics of p!ssed vs irritated)

You want to work on things? You want an open honest marriage? You get mad a W when she's not honest with your, but you can't express it to her.

I'm not saying be an a-hole about it, but really. What's wrong with saying.

I was little upset that you brought up OM name.

She has no problem telling you when you do stuff - like flirt with women at the coffee place.

You are right Harrier. I should have been honest with her. I made the decision not to be I guess because it was really something stupid to get irritated over. His name came up in one sentence when she was comparing something in the way that our friend talks to his wife (the M problems that they are having).

I'm not sure that my W knew why I got irritated. She may have. Like you said, she is not stupid. But it was such a minor thing and not at all the topic of our conversation, that I can also see where she may have thought that I was just getting defensive of my friend (the H that we were discussing).