My W is upset with me that the Japanese restaurant wouldn't serve her because the kitchen was closed. We had just missed the deadline. We had decided to go there, at the last minute. It appears we have a conflict. I try to steer us towards value meals ($25 or less). She wants specialty places. the compromise it seems, is simply to let her choose her own restaurant from time to time, even it's beyond $25. I expect to have to bear her disappointment today. I'm going to work on being stronger in the face of conflict, and try not to walk around like a scolded puppy.
I'm going to try to remember Starsky's wisdom about creating the best possible environment for my spouse on our vacation, and let the rest go. If there's a problem for me to solve, or if there's something I can do to enrich my W's stay, I'll do it. If I encounter nonconstructive complaining, in which there is nothing I can do, I'll have to leave her to her own misery, or tolerate it to the extent I'll have to (in the car). I'll hope for the best, and not expect perfection.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
