Were there control issues? I don't remember now. If there were, she may be subconsciously testing to see if you will try to contol her still.
When you didn't respond to the mention of OM, she even tried to get a reaction out of you later by texting. I think that every time you remain calm in your responses, you build her trust in your ability to change long-term.
I agree with the others - a little more space and missing you.
I think you're doing great with the "balance" thing.
