I don't like the idea of hating anyone either. Right now it's the only way I can deal though. I need to vilify her. She really is evil. Not because she had an A with my H, She was mean to a lot of people, didn't have any friends. I like your personal rule; don't CAP ow.
My H company is very large with many departments. Over the past year I have spoken to about 4 people who knew ow and everyone has the same response (they didn't know about the A) and it is disgust. Let's see, "snake" and "skank" are 2 responses people had when she came up in conversation. She comes from an upper-middle class family, but all 3 kids are messed up. Two are extreme underachievers and the 3rd kid is some big deal on Wall Street, but was part of the demise of the housing market in this country, so not a good soul either.
The ow was able to seduce my H due to her age and what he was going through emotionally at the time. They both had 12 y.o. crap to act out and it just so happened they were at the same place and time to give it voice. A Perfect Storm kind of thing. It's rather interesting psychologically. He needed to expel a very wounded inner child and once that "kid" was allowed to have a voice, he acted BADLY. Scared my H very much. I could have never been a part of it, I'm just not that mean. I think of it as an exorcism of sorts. The psych explanation doesn't help much, but I do understand I guess. We all need our needs met and sometimes it comes out in a very unhealthy way. Add seduction and you have an A. Can also be drugs and alcohol.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
