Thanks Cadet. I agree, the crisis is not over and he doesn't have the courage to let go of her completely. She is his crutch and he is still scared and confused about what he wants. He doesn't have to face those enormous feelings of guilt when he hides away.
Cat, I know I did constantly look for signs before but in more recent times I have developed the habit of observing. Before he finished with ow there were more signs that he was stepping towards me than there are now. I can see that he is tired, flat and struggling.
It's my therapist who used the term 'stuck' and I agree. It's as if he's stuck in quicksand and unable to dig himself out atm.
