Herb's posts take a while to appear, so I'll try to answer that. I don't know what kind of therapist he's going to. I'm not even sure if he knows actually. I think it was someone who was on the military list. At least he didn't have to see someone on base. Speaking of which, did you know that Cdn military members who see a therapist (that is paid for by the military) have their patient files reviewed by the military??? No confidentiality at all, and they admit that if they find something in them that suggests that they should be removed from duty, that they will. Not sure how that helps the poor guys dealing with PTSD, or anything really... just thought I would throw that out there. I had forgotten that.
I too have wondered that (Bipolar), but I don't really think that that's what it is.
He has always had some degree of anger, but it really sky-rocketed 3 years ago. He had just returned from Afghanistan, so if anything, I would suspect PTSD if anything. His work on his last deployment was traumatizing for any normal person, but he doesn't think that it affected him.
Add to that, he quit the regular army (after 24 years - to go to Afghanistan - long story), was now a full-time reservist without that solid security the reg force provides, that I had just quit my job, I bought an investment property before selling the old house (that we had just finished renoing for a year) (it sold in time), we moved into part of the new one, our son had moved out (into the other part of the new place)while he was deployed, AND he hurt his back - bad. He was terrified. That all took place from Aug - Nov.
Then, we bought another old house that needed EVERYTHING, moved into that, rented out the part of the previous one we had just lived in for 9 months, and started massively renoing the new "old" one. In the middle of reno, but after the big stuff was done, I announced that I was opening a store.It was a hit from day one, so long hours, stress, no more cooking by moi, and H feels like his life was out of control.
Then, another old beauty (with an adorable apt attached) comes on the market 3 doors down from our current home, and even though I had been thinking it would be a great location for the shop (which was 1 year old at that point and doing very well), I actually kept my mouth shut for fear that I would send poor H over the top with my idea, but HE brought it up 2 weeks after it was on the market. We went to the bank, it happened, the mortgage is cheaper than the rent I was paying, the store didn't implode, and everyone loves it. But stress, cleaning, cleaning, cleaning, more ripping down of wallpaper, more painting, etc.
I LOVE the stress, taking chances, and pushing the limits, and once I have a positive gut reaction to something, I trust that everything will work out. And it has.
H on the other hand did not enjoy all of that. Well he did, and then he didn't, and then he blew. I think he felt out of control to put it mildly.
That's my take. He might have something different to say!
