So I'm getting ready to start the section on The Building Blocks of Solution-Oriented Thinking
So far there has been a number of things I have been able to relate to our marriage.
One for instance my wife had come to me several months ago and mentioned that she wasn't happy because I come home talk to her for a few minutes and get on the computer and do other projects. Also said we don't go out enough
Upon hearing that I came home checked my email and then spent the evening watching TV with her. I look back now and see that even then we didn't talk as much as we would just watch TV. Sure I would reach across the couch and hold her hand here and there or occasionally when she was up go give her a hug but perhaps maybe I should have just shut the TV off and spent more time talking to her. I would also try to plan a movie for the weekend which she wasn't always in the mood to go see but even in that case we would catch a noon show go see the movie do some errands and come home and repeat the pattern we normally do.
As said in the book she was no longer complaining so I took it as that she was happy. I know now that was one of my errors. Makes me anxious to finish the book.
The Anytime Mid-Life Crisis didn't really sound anything like what I have gone through so far but it does sound kind of familiar for her. It could very well pertain to me as well I'll have to see as I get further into the book.
Does it get into what to do when your spouse has already moved out and contemplating divorce?
