We cannot MAKE each other happy in life. We can only create the environment for happiness, and let our spouses be responsbility for their OWN happiness within that positive environment.
I didn't give my W much to work with early on. I was emotionally immature and a poor communicator. It took a wake-up call in 2003 for me to begin working on myself. I've continued to work on myself because of the continued R problems since that time. I now feel like a good H and partner, and stronger, balanced, and happier human being. This is how it's supposed to be. Moving into intimacy will be a stretch, but I don't have a choice. If I keep the same patterns of distance, avoidance, and safety, I will feel the whip of R problems again.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
