I have played a VERY real part in this whole situation and i've hurt myself by hurting those that i love more than life itself. I've told my wife that I'm devastated and crushed because i hurt her and them. I think that if i would of put my foot down i think it would just build more resistance and resentment. She's told me on several occasions that i don't do anything anymore. I used to hunt, fish, hangout with buddies, ride motorcycles, play sports and all that stuff. But there was a time in our relationship where she would say that i never paid enough attention to our girls. So after hearing that several times i turned it around and basically shut off all the things i used to enjoy doing. Just this past week my wifes cell phone crapped out on her so even though she's out of our house i bought her a new one, now i know that in this whole DB process that was probably the wrong thing to do but i myself felt it was the right thing to do.
I just recently started playing in a roller hockey league so i'm starting to turn it around. I have followed denver's situation and i do see some similarities. Right now i'm trying to eliminate any risks and we have both agreed to not fight about things because that's not going to get us anywhere. I don't want to fight with her i want to her to see the changes that i'm determined to make. The other night we were tlking on the phone and both of were crying and i was telling her that i was going makes the changes and become the man i want to be and the man/husband/father that she wants me to be. Well just as i was saying that the Chris Young song "The Man I Want To Be" came on the radio and the next morning when i went to work it was on the radio as i was starting my car. That song really resonates with me and it's me. It's "The Man I Want To Be".
Now my SIL who always seems to be fighting with her husband is going to be living with my wife. So that throws a whole other dynamic into the situation.
