She's been to the doctor on a couple of occasions prior to us getting married plus her mom and my wife both had told me previously on separate occasions that the doctors wanted to put her on lithium when she was a kid because of her BPD. We've been married for 31/2 years and been together for 6 years total. We both moved to this state at around the same time and she ended up working as a temp where I worked at the time.
She carried around a lot of depression as it is because since we've been married she has lost both her parents and regrets not talking to them more. Something else she won't get help in dealing with. I know what a toll losing them has been for her.
I've been reading some of the book some of it so far has been pretty interesting.
I've been trying to figure that out as well. I realize that it takes two to make something not work and I've been trying to reflect on what I could have done wrong. I honestly don't know or I haven't done enough self searching to find the answer yet one. Prior to her leaving I asked her to be brutal with me and just tell me what I did wrong. She just said nothing and said she has a great husband and a good life but the responsibilities that come with being married she really doesn't want anymore.
I'm trying to put myself in a mindset to where I can function normally but this is all very consuming honestly. I bought some sleeping pills so maybe I can get more than 2 hours of sleep tonight.