Received an e-mail from STBEX this morning concerning logistics for Father's Day and the upcoming week for the kids. At the end of the e-mail, she mentioned about her family gathering for a memorial for her dad at the end of July and she was planning on taking the kids.
I replied to the upcoming week and Father's Day goings on but I left the rest of it alone. She made her point clear with yesterday's e-mail...
For someone who critized me to high heaven for my deficient communication skills several years ago, she is at least as bad if not worse. But I really need to let this go, to let the anger and frustration pass in a healthy way. She is who she is - someone who I want as little to do with as possible as I proceed with my life. There will always be the interactions concerning the kids - but that is where I need to set my boundary and remain as dark as possible...
On the positive communication front, I sent an e-card to my Dad (76 years and still hanging in there) and I'll talk with him on Sunday. I'm also thinking about the daughters of my co-worker who died suddenly last March as well as my good friend who passed away over two years ago and left behind a son and daughter. Although you don't know what the next day will bring, I'll someday have to deal with my Dad's passing (as well as my Mom's). I guess I'll find out at some point - unless there are other plans for me. Regardless, I want to keep remaining positive and caring in my interactions with my kids, family, friends - and even STBEX.
Maybe someday I'll have that next great relationship in my life - put what I have read and learned on these boards and other sources to effective and wonderful use...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
