Welcome to the community here at DB. Have you read The Divorce Remedy? Make that your priority b/c it will be your guide to save your M.
My question is, have you been with your W in past times when she was not taking her medication? If you have, then is she acting pretty much like she would when not medicated? I would think her brother would know the signs.
Who has the most influence in her life? It sounds as if her "friend" has the most right now. Girlfriends can have a ton of negative influence when one is not happy. For example, your W might be influenced to think she would be happier if she got a D. Is her friend M?
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I don't have the money to pay for 2 cars,rent,food and utilities. So that left me today with having to go look for a part-time job also.
How much of that was your W financing? Sell one of the cars. Find a cheaper place to live, be stingy with the utilities, and buy just enough food for one person. (Let your survival instincts kick in and you may be amazed.) Don't finance anything for her if she's not going to live with you and insists she wants a D.
If she starts living off her brother, he'll get tired of that quick! Doesn't mean she'll run back home, but she has to realize that you won't give her money.
Brace yourself for things to get worse, as they often do before getting better. Work on yourself and keep your focus off her. Pull back and don't contact her. No relationship talks! Those two things are very important.
Do you have family near?
This is a great support group. Hope you post often.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
