robx's advice is NOT good DB advice for the situation as you've described it. There is a time and place when it might be good advice, but it carries risks.
The piece you've shared has elements of Denver's situation. The similarity is that YOU have played a serious part in this situation that lead to the situation at hand, and you putting your foot down is just ridiculous if you want to save your marriage.
The part where you turn it around and up your personal value in the relationship IS good advice.
