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[Lonely in SLC]

Where to begin. I guess I will start off with some background information. My wife and I have been married almost 12 years. We have 2 great boys (10 & 8 years), and a lovely daughter (5 years). The bomb ("The love I once had for you is gone") happened back in March of this year. She asked for a separation. She moved into my daughters room. I was devastated, panicked, and pursued.

Two weeks, and I could see things were not getting better. I had a hard time understanding that she needed time away from me. Was'nt the reason why she was mad is because I had neglected our love and taken both her and our marriage for granted. I thought she wanted me to be more attentative and to spend time with her.

Shortly before the bomb, she began to attend a night club everyother week with her friends, a girls night out. Before, it was only twice a year. This was not like her. I began to have suspicions that she was seeing another man. I began to spy. I had a suspicion that it might be a security guard at the night club that she liked. She denied even knowing him.

A month after the bomb, with the situation remaining the same, I notice on the cell phone bill about 50 text messages a day to this security guard that she claimed she did not know. Ouch. In my mind, I was now confident that the reason why she no longer wanted me was because she found someone else. I lost trust in her. To be continued...