I guess what I meant about removing myself from the pain wasn't quite right. More like remove myself from the drama, which was just adding more pain on top of the sitch.
Obviously, there's still lots of hurt, but it's on my terms and mine to go through. Yes, a month without contact was hard, but it was also very helpful. It pretty much forced me to concentrate on what I'm doing, not W or what she's doing. I'm living my life for me now, not for her.
What I do find interesting is the timing of all this. I sent MIL an email yesterday (see previous page) where I said that if W didn't want to go I had other people in mind that would. Twelve hours later, W asks if there's anyone else I'd rather take... hmmm. I think she also saw me driving by on the main road yesterday. Might have got her thinking about me. Who knows. might all be coincidence.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011