Why did I change my mind? Bc I'm convinced that your goal is to still save your M. You have had a few weeks of complete darkness. I think that it might be good to have some contact with her that is fun, stress free, and with no R pressure.
Just go and 180 your a$$ off. Go be the best, most exciting, and fun LP that you have in you.
Lastly, if it hasn't already been established that she is going with you by the time that you read this....
Be confident and sure about what you want... don't put it in her hands.
"Yes, I want you to go with me. Would you like to go get some dinner beforehand?"
Sorry about the flip flop, but this is a tough call.
BITS Denver
P.S. Your goal of removing yourself from the pain... I don't believe that we can avoid the pain LP. I think that Sunny is right on that. You detach with love... but also keep your eye on the prize (goal)... the hardest balancing act you will ever have!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
