If she asks you why you didn't warn her (or accuses you of not warning her), tell her that you are following the advice of your attorney on these matters. That this is all new to you, you didn't expect to find yourself in this position, and that you really trust him/her to handle these kinds of things and look out for your interests. Validate that you know it's upsetting to her, but that you're only trying to do what's best for the kids and yourself, considering the circumstances.
The legal system moves slowly. Your wife will have plenty of time and opportunity to protect herself, and rightfully so.
Starsky
That's a great post Starsky. I can see it coming like a freight train with the lights on, horns blowing and the steam flowing out of the stack from miles away.
She does have the right to protect herself and I would like both the W and I to be accessible to our kids. They need both of us. Unfortunately her moving so far away has created a logistical challenge.
Glad to see that you are no longer moderated.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
