Hey- Just wanted to follow up about the awkward exchange last week. I will be making a genuine, concerted effort for you to not feel pressured into repairing our marriage even though it is what I feel is best. I love you for who you [are] not for what you do/are doing. You know my position and want an honest second chance. Until hopefully having that chance, all I can do is pray and be the best I can. Thank you for expressing your feelings. Enjoy the memorial day weekend.
I would suggest that you do not send any more messages like this one. As a former WAW, I think I can assure you that she will feel very pressured by these words and that is what will cause her to pull away.....not going dark. Whenever you profess your undying love and remind her that you don't want what's happening, it is pursuing and it does not work.
Not to bring you down, Mike, but you need to expect things to get worse before they get better. Taking her rings off is nothing compared to what you may have to face. Work on your mental strength so that you won't be crushed whenever something like this happens. Just keep telling yourself that she has to hit rock bottom before she'll start climbing up.
Agree with Sandi. Messages like that are simultaneously "pursuing" and "needy," and neither is attractive to your wife. Throw in a little "holier-than-thou," too, and it's not a good combination.
