Tele, The pull wanting to touch someone you have been touching and loving for years does not go away. I think even with detachment you can be next to them and feel the pull like gravity. Just remember that if you are in control of yourself even if you are just telling yourself that you have the upper hand. Remember to pay attention to even the smallest goals.. I have found it VERY helpful to journal myself. It gets out the feelings then you can look back at your good moments when you have a bad one.
______________________________________ H:32 W: 35 M- 11 Tog- 13 D-5 S-9 Sep. June 5th Bomb 6/27/11 OW Discovered on July 18th and admitted.... Divorced 11/22/2011 Ex Engaged to OW Jan. 2012