Making some plans for the next few weeks. I had clear plans in the past and that always helped me. If not, I let my emotions control my actions.
Next few days - stay dark and live my life.
Jun 23 - STBX 41st birthday and the 23rd anniversary of the day we met. I am going to give her a generic card (not a mushy to my wife one). I am working on the script now. Nothing too emotional, but recognizing the day and where we were 23 years ago and one year ago, but also the reality of where we are today.
Just before I leave for vacation on July 6 - Send an email outlining the financial details on buying her out of the house. I will not do that without the divorce being final at the same time. I am also going to confirm that she will continue to pay me $500 per child as long as they live with me. I intend to clearly state that while I still believe divorce is wrong that it's now the only choice and require that to buy her out.
July 6-13 - Visit an old friend in Calgary and attend the Stampede. That will give me a full week to prepare for her response to the email, but at the same time, take a break from all of this.
If things go the way they should, we will be divorced by end of year, but I will still be in my house with my kids, getting $1000 per month from her, financially stable, healthy and finally have closure.
Any thoughts or advice as I enter the Big D phase?
