Thanks FaithnAK. I believe I'm doing much better considering...fairly new at going dark. Have not bought up anything about the relatinship in two weeks. Only the kids and talk about her recent move, mystuff/hers, etc. and have been nothing bu validating, helpful, and nice and it feels good!
So weird that her parents made the move with her (they're)newly retired and have been with her since Feb. Enabling..but I can't can't control that. Just think I should be there, not them, you know? 180's: looking for work outside of my consulting business (stress for her) accepting invites to dinner with friends going to gym more reading books for ME hikes activities with kids of my choosing just practicing being in the moment and choosing happiness
