I can see how it seems like the focus is always on what the LBS has done wrong, but there is a reason for this. It is NOT because the WAS is innocent and has done nothing wrong. It is NOT because the LBS is a terrible person. It is because it is all we can control. All WE can do is look at what WE can improve on and work on it. We CANNOT fix the WAS problems for THEM.
So we can talk about all the terrible things the WAS has done, and I agree that many times they have done terrible things, but we cannot fix that. All we can do is work on ourselves.
I know I said this before, but do not confuse forgiveness with approval.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.