A counselor once told me that sometimes you have to find an alternate way to communicate with your spouse other than talking. It seems like you two communicate better in writing than face to face. Maybe you need to try that.
If both of you will write down your thoughts and feelings, some of the more "emotional" points won't come out and you're able to concentrate only on that which is important.
That way, Herb won't lose his temper and TT will be able to get to the heart of what troubles her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.