I would love to tell you of how I busted our divorce almost 6 years ago. But now, I honestly can't remember how it went and my threads from back then have disappeared. All I can tell you is that I do remember the incredible feeling the day we told our kids that Mommy and Daddy were staying together. That may have been the single happiest moment in my life. My wish is that all of you will some day feel that, and unlike my be able to have that feeling forever.
That's ok, because it is about so much more than you posted here. Many folks say, 'I did THIS (one technique) and I got my spouse back'. It isn't like that. I'm sure you know that. Lots of things were good, some things weren't. It's about you, it's about her, it's about the two of you together.
Begin with a Beginner's Mind. Pretend you never did anything before. It's the FIRST. Start over.
Set your (mini) goals. What is going well? What were her complaints?
MOSTLY--what you focus on expands: When you were in love, what were you DOING, What were you SAYING?
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REAL GIVING How does your wife define love. What makes her feel loved. CLUE: How did she give love to you (that's most likely how she wants to receive it).
