Been there done that. My 1st wife starting having an affair a year and a half into the marraige. She dropped the D bomb and rushed through a quickie divorce, when she knew the new guy would hang around. I was very angry with her so I wanted her lying cheating tail out.
So yes, I was blindsided before, and did not want that to happen again. Ironically, Ex-wife was sleeping with her husband(me) and her boyfriend at the same time. The no sex with current wife set all sorts of red flags off for me. I would rather her be honest even if it is painful rather than pretend everything is ok, only to come home and find all her stuff gone and her with it.
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What did she say when you told her all that, verbatim? Have you done that?
To quote her. "You know where the door is, pack up your @@@@ and get out then".
In a nutshell... She does not feel, or acknowledge there is a problem. If there is, it is my fault and I must "deal with it". I am selfish for wanting sex more than every 4 to 6 weeks, and she is not for depriving me.
I am going to give her some serious space...IE roughly 4 weeks from now before mentioning this again to see what happens.
