I think sometimes there's this sense that damage has been done, that there is "no going back" - my boyfriend and I have never cheated and no physical anything, though there is def. verbal abuse (lots of yelling matches) and lots of blame. While I can write my story and get all kinds of feedback and advice, but what happens is sometimes my hope wavers. As long as I know there is hope, I'm good (we have a lot invested, and a daughter, etc.) ... so for me, hearing that people come out of these terrible places alive, having learned something, and feeling good about their relationships makes me less inclined to go to that pit of despair ...
But I see what you mean about the floodgate of questions. Thank you for sharing what you did!
