Originally Posted By: tadpole1025

I realized that I am missing someone who "loved me deeply for many years" and now doesn't even care if I'm alive.


This is mind reading dude......

This is why we preach to look away from you spouse.....

It Hurts.....

Sorry you had a bad night.

Not your first and unfortunately not your last.....

You have gotten through them before and guess what?????

The sun comes up again the next morning......

always does.

What the passing of TIME brings YOU is the knowledge that you will survive and be okay.

It takes time for your soul to be convinced that this pain will fade.

For me this is the "WORK".

When you have survived enough "bad nights" you begin to realize that the pain is not forever.

It might be a good time to stop a minute Tad and look back over your shoulder......

What do you see???

Think about the days when this first began.....

I bet those "bad days and nights" were more intense and closer together.....

It does get better......with TIME.

What you have to do is work on TAD when it is not a "bad night".

When you work on YOU that means you are not looking at her.

Looking at her = more bad nights

Working on YOU = less bad nights

Fear is driving you right now, you can't see it but it is there.

Your fear of being happy without your W is ever present.

Here is a secret......

The best chance of healing your M is.......

Finding a way to be HAPPY WITHOUT YOUR WIFE.

Make sense????

BTW, being happy without your W doesn't mean finding someone else to be happy with, it means finding that happy place inside of you.

It took me awhile to find it......over a year and alot of "bad nights".

Hang in there, oh today is Little Friday.

Happy Little Friday!!!

Cheers

Formerly "missherlove"

Me49 XW49
M17 T19
S16 D20

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.

~Jim Morrison