Glad to hear she has calmed down. In your description of the evening together, this jumped out at me.
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She told me that it makes her feel that she isn't good enough for me.
She told me that 'when' she is in my life it can't be like that anymore.
I told her that I know that I had made her feel like this, and that I had created the problem. But at the same time, I didn't think that it would be right for her to be too controlling.
W said that her feeling on this subject might change in the future, "in 6 months, 5 years, or never." But that she can't feel like she did bc it made her extremely unhappy.
I assume that you know what she is talking about. I have a problem with the idea that someone MAKES someone else feel a certain way. This by no means absolves you from thoughtless or boorish behavior. You should not engage in thoughtless, boorish or hurtful behavior. On the other hand, chatting in line at a coffee shop with women is not equivalent to staying out at bars flirting with women, or having a lapdance.
There's got to be a balance here. If she is hypersensitive and feels hurt every time you talk to a woman, that is her problem, not yours. I am reminded of the over-bearing husbands who accuse their wives of infidelity if they so much as speak to a man in the neighborhood.
