This is the hard part. And some have responded and said H wouldn't have come home anyway even if his family did approve. But anyway, how do they go from saying they love you again and wanting to come home to fighting with you within 2 days and saying nasty hateful things and that it's over?
H calls D14 in the middle of Feb and asks why she hasn't texted or called in a couple of weeks and she tells him that she is just upset because he told her he was coming home and never did, so then he flips on her.
H changes his cell number so none of us have it, and D14 writes a little note saying she doesn't want him to miss anything big in her life again and would he please come to her Confirmation, and that she loves and misses him. NO response, doesn't go and this was at the end of April.
Still have not heard a word from him, me or the kids. Out of all of the threads I have read I have never seen anything like this before, oh and H ran into my sister and told her before he told me that he was thinking about coming home at the end of Jan.
It's like we don't even exist. I know there are not 2 situations that are the same, but mine seems to be so much different from most on here. H goes to his sons' things from his ex-girlfriend and doesn't even contact our D14 or my S20, that he raised.
I know that DB is also for us to move on if the M doesn't survive but how does anyone DB when the other person just drops out of their family's lives? No phone calls, emails, texts, nothing. And he continues it seems to be living as if we don't exist, just bothers with the in-laws and his other 2 children and the in-laws hate me and don't bother with our kids either. They blame me for H's MLC. They believe every word that comes out of his mouth.
So for me and the kids it was like it was 2 1/2 years ago.......starting from the beginning again of this mess as of Jan.
