Thanks for the post. I agree, I have to change myself because I want to, not becuase I feel my W is forcing me to; I don't think the latter.

I also know I need to keep posting, and reading, in order to really get anything from the forum.

I'm not a "big" reader like my W, but I do enjoy sifting through posts and seeing how others are getting along.

No excuses, I need to do more and I need to stay calm when my W feels insecure.

Herb