I feel the same way, I don’t understand her either! She wants out, but can’t let go at the same time.
The other thing that is tough about her is she bottles up her feelings. She did this in our M, it was part of our problem. I never realized how much some of the things I did hurt her because she never told me. So now, with that same trend, she doesn’t open up now either. With anger or anything else. This makes it tough to have any idea what she might be thinking…
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hmm, as for the pics/MIL, etc
send pics to your mil and maybe "cc" your w
but if you do that, you have to drop a note to MIl or say something...
Well, I already sent them to MIL, no cc to W. I did send a note along with the pictures. Told her a little about our trip and said I was still looking forward to visiting her this summer.
She replied early this morning. She said how much she loved the pictures and how much they help. “Keep them coming”
She then mentioned that she is down in LA right now and will be coming through town on Sunday. She talked about stopping by.
I haven’t responded yet. TBH, I am a little nervous, and I also have not nailed down my plans yet, so I am not sure what to say right now. I am very happy that she is being so kind to me. In her card she said “you will always have a spot in our family.” My R with MIL was actually always a bit rocky. Not bad, just tense I guess. We have very different views and we both are not afraid to say them. It’s weird that this sitch has actually improved my R with MIL…
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AHH, two months? I going on two years now and my STBX has even filed!!! I have given her a road back to the M and she chose not to accept it. But she STILL has done nothing to move forward with D.
Guess what? I make settlement on my house this Monday to buy her out and remove her name from the mortgage and then I will be the one to file for D. I deserve better in a R and intend to find someone who WANTS TO BE WITH ME. Some M can't be saved, unfortunately mine is one of them. Not what I wanted but have accepted the outcome.
Many WAS leave the M, say they want a D and do not do a thing about it.
Just giving you a perspective on things.
Thanks gr8, it does really help putting things in perspective. It helps to resolve my patience. I need to remember it. 2 years, I really can’t imagine…
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I too want someone that's crazy about me and actually enjoys being around me.
This can really hit hard sometimes. I used to cherish my “alone time.” And to a point I still do, maybe this has helped me through this somewhat. But I can miss the companionship so much sometimes. I know I’ll have it again someday with someone…
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I am telling you the same, don’t push, don’t worry, enjoy your D!
These are the reminders I need. Every time we screw up it seems to be driven from a lack of patience. Wanting things to MOVE. It does get old feeling in limbo. Some times resolution one way or the others seems attractive.
However, that feeling of limbo only has to exist if that is what we focus on. Enjoy the moment, and be our best. All we can do…
Thank you everyone for all of the responses. It helps so much.
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