So...am I still a newcomer?

[any chance?]

Understand your pain. Polite, pleasant, and entirely platonic. My W seems to want to interact, wants to do things, but is keeping a distance. I am assuming this is because she is sticking with her game plan of D and moving on, but I would think at some point she would need to detach from me. Only time will tell.

I think being under the same roof is good, although painful at times. I am beginning to recognize what life without W would be like. Sharing our space right now is fine,as it is necessary if any reconciliation is going to happen. I also know it will not last forever. Both you and I need to get out of the back eddy we find ourselves in and move onward, with or without them. It is only a matter of time. Remember that and be strong.