So...am I still a newcomer?

[any chance?]

One day at a time, tele, one day at a time. Understand your feelings of going home is a low point...here too...problem is you don't know what to expect. You need to keep up the GAL, and better yourself FOR yourself, and let her SEE the changes. You need to bury some things (money issues, closed door computer, etc) for a while, not for the long term. You have to ride it out, and see where the journey leads. She is all over the boards, a sign of confusion, and you not entirely a model of rock solid stability yourself. Hang tough. Stay focused on the long game. Don't let temporary blips (nephew this weekend) get to you. Take it in stride. Be strong.