18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[AJM80]

Well, not much to say here. Told H Monday that he needed to be respectful, that if he had something to say it should come up before the day before I talk to the landlady.

I'm ready to move for real now. Have to give landlady notice in 2 weeks. Financially wouldn't work to stay here. Trying to figure out if I need to file for legal sep or just D. I am moving out of state, need to protect my right to file here.

H had a blast playing w his soon to be ex-nephew when we all got back from vacation. I'm a bit mad at him - he's missing son's 1st bday since I am leaving town/he didn't speak up when asked if he wanted to be around for it.

What do I do? Let it go? Spell out that I expect him to figure out a way to celebrate S's bday within 2 weeks of the actual date? My sister thinks he is being passive aggressive - if I lay it out for him/try to influence it's "she's so controlling" and if I don't do anything "she kept you away from me/not my fault"

Also, not sure if I tell him I am going to move or just let him pretend it isn't happening until it happens? Speaking of passive aggressive, I am going to pack some stuff while he is here tnight. Moving with 2 kids is going to take some planning, moving to a smaller place is a perfect time to dump some clutter.