Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 5

[OnMyWay]

I expressed how the anger and her cold attitude was effecting me. I have been trying to stay positive and friendly, but my W has told me in the past that she finds it fake. I told my W that my behaviors towards her are nothing but genuine. She said that my friendly nature makes her uncomfortable, because we are not friends right now. She moved out, and we are separated. She feels that by her being friendly would give me some kind of false hope. We have to see each other everyday due to our custody with our S, but she wants to keep the exchange impersonal. She said that when I ask personal questions about her or ask if she wants to stick around for a bit for the baby's bedtime routine, it makes her uncomfortable. She said that it has gotten to a point that she wants to get in and out to avoid any questions.

Boy, sparks, I know all this plenty well. The only thing I can tell you is to go dark & GAL like never before. When I "have it together," things really begin to change. However, do it for yourself first to give you some space and to get away from it for a while - gather some clarity. Second, do it as a 180 for all the things she said as quoted above. Third, do it to put yourself in a better place, as once this happens, she'll notice and thing may begin to change.

It happened in my sitch. Once my WAW began to see I didn't need her around anymore and that I was moving on, things changed rapidly - put her in the position of pursuit, which is way better than you being in a position to beg. You must get your strength back, as a man, a husband, and a father.

I love it when my WAW tells me she doesn't want to say or do things as it will give me "false hope." Since when does she give a damn about me? She's the one that left isn't she? Funny how they are so "caring."