I do not want H (Herb) to post here because he feels that he HAS to. I would love for him to do what ever it takes for him to communicate in a non-threatening way, and get to the bottom of, not just control his anger - IF that's what he wants.
It doesn't make any difference to me if that means posting/learning from this forum, going to therapy, or sitting crossed-legged for 3 hours per day. If something works, we can get somewhere
I believe that every action/emotion has its origin in love or fear. So I believe H's anger is a result of fear of something. Understanding that makes it impossible for me to hate him. I would give anything to understand him!
I suggested to H that he participate on the forum, and I am, because I feel that this is the last tool that I have available to save us.
Even though I in no way hate H, I do have to preserve my sanity if SOMETHING doesn't work.
I feel that I am now in a holding pattern: as long as I don't get yelled at, I am more than willing to be patient.
But H, if you are uncomfortable, and are only posting because you think you HAVE to, I wish you wouldn't. The last thing I want to do is put even indirect/well pressure on you.
