Somewhere between filing and D

[MichelleLT]

Glad you are getting closer to a resolution on your motorcycle.

As for W, she obviously wants the D but not to cut emotional ties. I don't really understand that, my XH was like that at times, and pulled the "can't we be friends" as recently as a year ago. You have to decide what your boundary is. Mine was, you left me for OW, you wanted this D, if you go through with the D we're done. No we can't be friends. But everyone has to decide for themselves.

Friendship is the road to R even after D. But it's about what you believe. What your goals are. And what you can handle.

Why tell you? Because she wants this to be easy. She wanted to give you advance warning so you wouldn't be caught by surprise.

The WASs always want the D to be easy. Then they don't have to feel bad about their decision. Reality rarely cooperates though, whether in the form of the LBS or the court. Lol.

Why go through with it? Because it's her choice, her journey. She obviously believes D is the only way to truly claim her independence. Do we know that's a bunch of BS? Yes. But she has herself convinced D is the only way. It doesn't matter if it's true, she doesn't see the other options, so it's true to her.