empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[canadianMrs.]

Another update, the good with the bad.

The last couple of weeks have been going well. H has really been trying; calling, texting, helping with the kids, around the house etc. I went away last week, and he stayed with the kids. He cleaned the house for me, did laundry, planned/booked D's b-day party...all things H would never have done before. He called me a lot while I was away too.


THEN, Monday. I come out of the grocery store and I see his car. Then I see him and OW come out of the coffee shop. I lose it. I went over to them, and he tried to tell me it wasn't what it looked like. I ignored him and went to her. I told her what this has done to my children, that H has been saying he wants me back, and that all our friends and family have said they will never except her in his life. I told her what H tells me about her (not flattering). It was great. I didn't yell, but I was assertive. I walked away with H running after me, saying he wanted to talk/fix this. I told him to go.
I went home and he tried calling me all the way home. I ignored him. He comes over and says he really hasn't had contact with her, he ran into her and she asked if they could have coffee. He says he realizes now that he really can't have any contact with her, and told her so. I guess she didn't like him running after me either. I don't know what to believe. I told him this took any progress back to square one in my eyes.
He has been trying even harder the last couple of days. I'm still numb from Monday. He just called to ask if he could take me out for dinner. That was actually one of my other "signs of improvement", him initiating time together.
We'll see where we go from here. His bf heard about the incident too, and H got an ear full from him too.
The rollercoaster ride....